Private Facebook Rules

Sources for the group rule: "Refrain from posting when extremely upset"

1. 𝟭. 𝗦𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗮𝘁 𝗩𝗶𝗿𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗮 𝗧𝗲𝗰𝗵 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗡𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗻 𝗜𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗼𝗶𝘀 𝗨𝗻𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘆: 𝗗𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗚𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝗢𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘁 𝗔𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗥𝗲𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆?

𝗞𝗲𝘆 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆: "The current study provides for the first step in this important process of understanding how people use the Internet to cope with such events and will hopefully lead to further investigations as to why Internet use did not affect well-being, despite students’ subjective reports of improvement, and under what conditions Facebook activities and other online behaviors may prove beneficial or detrimental to people’s recovery over time."

Source: Vicary, Amanda & Fraley, R.. (2010). Student Reactions to the Shootings at Virginia Tech and Northern Illinois University: Does Sharing Grief and Support Over the Internet Affect Recovery?. Personality & social psychology bulletin. 36. 1555-63. 10.1177/0146167210384880.
Student_Reactions_to_the_Shootings_at_Virginia_Tec (retreived 6/21/2024 from https://www.researchgate.net/publication/46578570_Student_Reactions_to_the_Shootings_at_Virginia_Tech_and_Northern_Illinois_University_Does_Sharing_Grief_and_Support_Over_the_Internet_Affect_Recovery )

𝟮. 𝗔𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘁: 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗰𝗲𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗱 𝘃𝗮𝗹𝘂𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘁-𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗲𝘀

𝗞𝗲𝘆 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆: "Study 1 surveyed rant-site visitors to better understand the perceived value of the Web sites and found that while they become relaxed immediately after posting, they also experience more anger than most and express their anger in maladaptive ways. Study 2 explored the emotional impact of reading and writing rants and found that for most participants, reading and writing rants were associated with negative shifts in mood."

Source:Pubmed NIH National Library of Medicine
Download PDF of this study:martin-et-al-2013-anger-on-the-internet-the-perceived-value-of-rant-sites (retrieved 6/21/24 from https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/pdf/10.1089/cyber.2012.0130 )

𝟯. 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝘀 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗿𝗲𝗴𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗹𝘂𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘃𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝘁𝗼𝗻𝗲.

𝗞𝗲𝘆 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆:: "Practical implications: What is said in response to venting matters. Respondents should be aware of the attributions they use when responding to venting. Originality/value: Venting may persist as a common practice because we “feel better” after the venting interaction not because we release anger."

Source: American Psychological Association - APA PyschNet
Parlamis, J.D. (2012), "Venting as emotion regulation: The influence of venting responses and respondent identity on anger and emotional tone", International Journal of Conflict Management, Vol. 23 No. 1, pp. 77-96. https://doi.org/10.1108/10444061211199322
𝟰. 𝗦𝗼𝗿𝗿𝘆, 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗢𝗻𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗝𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗠𝗮𝗸𝗲𝘀 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗔𝗻𝗴𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗿, 𝗦𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝘀𝘁𝘀 𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗱

𝗞𝗲𝘆 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆:: "Just because something makes you feel better doesn't mean it's healthy," said Bushman, explaining that many people still have the misconception that it's always better to get things off your chest than to bottle them up." - Brad Bushman, a professor of psychology and communication at the Ohio State University, author of study Does Venting Anger Feed or Extinguish the Flame? Catharsis, Rumination, Distraction, Anger, and Aggressive Responding.

"And even though we all vented to friends before we had the Internet, doing it in person or over the phone requires you to wait until the other person is free to chat - which is usually long enough for you to cool down slightly."

Source: https://www.sciencealert.com/sorry-but-venting-online-just-makes-you-angrier-scientists-find

𝟱. 𝗟𝗼𝗼𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝘁 𝗮 𝗛𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗧𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗔𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗶𝗻 𝗢𝘂𝗿 𝗕𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝘀 𝗨𝗻𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗔𝗻𝘆 𝗢𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗢𝗯𝗷𝗲𝗰𝘁

𝗞𝗲𝘆 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆:: "While they were doing this, a camera-based eye-tracking system monitored what objects their eyes were looking at, and the electrodes simultaneously monitored neural activity in the amygdala and the hippocampus – distinct parts of the brain that are both involved with different aspects of processing memories, amongst other functions, with the amygdala also important for regulating our emotions.

"You could easily argue that faces are one of the most important objects we look at," says senior author of the study, Ueli Rutishauser, the director of the neuroscience research at nonprofit healthcare and research organization Cedars-Sinai in Los Angeles.

It's long been known that seeing faces makes neurons fire in the amygdala more so than for other forms of stimuli, although the reasons for this have remained uncertain.

"One hypothesis is that these signals are transferred from the amygdala via strong projections to the hippocampus, where they elevate and prioritize hippocampal processing of stimuli with high social and emotional significance," the researchers write.

"This may serve hippocampal memory encoding for salient stimuli and events."

Source: Article quotes: https://www.sciencealert.com/looking-at-a-human-face-triggers-a-specific-pattern-of-brain-activity-study-shows
Study: Science Advances https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/sciadv.abl6037#sec-2

𝟲. 𝗖𝗼-𝗿𝗲𝗴𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 – 𝗜𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗲𝘀?

𝗞𝗲𝘆 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆: "While I am now more convinced that co-regulation is possible on video platforms, I remain skeptical about the possibility for it on social media or email, especially when we only have words on the screen to respond to. Most of us have had at least one experience online where something that might have felt relatively innocuous from our perspective activated another person and things fairly quickly erupted into a conflict. (Or we were the person activated and nobody else understood why.) That seems to have become a normal occurrence for anyone who spends time online."

𝗞𝗲𝘆 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆: "These are situations where people don’t have the benefit of reading body language, of picking up on the nuances of what’s been said and/or what’s been triggered in a person, or of tuning in to another person’s body signals that might reveal the dysregulation. We sit behind our own screens getting activated by each other’s words and, more often than not, there’s nobody within reach who can help us soothe whatever has been triggered in us. Instead, there are often people who contribute to the activation and sometimes a pile-on starts to happen and it’s like someone has lit a powder keg. And when we don’t take the time to self-soothe and move out of fight, flight, or freeze, we can very quickly do harm to people we wouldn’t otherwise want to harm."

Source: https://centreforholdingspace.com/co-regulation-is-it-possible-in-online-spaces/

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