Betrayal Trauma and Sex Addiction Recovery Basics

1: Betrayal Trauma and Sex Addiction – the Basics You Need to Know. Start Here if You Just Found Out
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You’re not crazy or over-reacting – this is betrayal trauma
Get the RIGHT therapy – the WRONG therapy can hurt you both
What is betrayal trauma, APSATS and the Multidimensional Parter Trauma Model
Relationship Recovery isn’t the only recovery
Recovery IS POSSIBLE – for you, your partner and relationship
What does betrayal trauma feel like?
Focus on you, and your safety and health
What to tell the children?
It can be an emotional roller coaster
Consider THERAPEUTIC Separation
Get ready to educate yourself on new topics
You’re not to blame. You didn’t attract this.
Enacting Boundaries will empower you and help you feel safe
Get a full medical workup
Don’t Isolate
About 12 STEP programs
Get into a group with others experiencing the same betrayal
Confirm your reality – but use moderation and consider the following….
Avoid Major Life Changing Decisions
Addicted people will use methods to avoid…
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2: Boundaries Basics: How to Create, Communicate and Enforce Boundaries with a Sexually Addicted Spouse
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Example of how to set and communicate your boundaries – GUIDES
What can I set a boundary around? Examples of your relationship rights
Boundaries as Circles – Moving Your Partner to the Friend Zone Temporarily
Boundary Enforcements; Your Safety after slips, relapses, harmful behaviors
They Key to Enforcing Boundaries: A group that keeps you grounded in your authentic reality
3: Dealing with Triggers: Panic Attacks, Extreme Anxiety, Distress, Confusion
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Trigger Tools
4: Books for Your Own Personal Recovery as a Betrayed Partner
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Recommended Reading for the Start of Your Recovery Journey
Workbooks for Your Own Recovery
5: What Does Real Recovery Look Like?
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What Recovery for the Betraying Partner or Addicted Person DOES NOT Look Like
What Does a Sexually Addicted Person in Recovery Look Like?
What Does a Betrayed Spouse in Recovery Look Like?
6: Relationship Recovery: The Usual Milestones that Lead to Repair and Growth Together
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Therapeutic Disclosure: How it Helps His and Her Recoveries, and the Relationship Recovery
Research: Majority of Couples recommend Full Therapeutic Disclosure
Full Therapeutic Disclosure preparation: For the sexually addicted / betrayer
Full Therapeutic Disclosure Preparation: For the Betrayed Spouse
For the Betrayed Spouse: Surviving Disclosure
Book: Courageous Love: A Couples Guide to Conquering Betrayal
7: Dealing With the Toxic Things My Partner Says and Does
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Book: In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding & Dealing with Manipulative People
Book: The Gaslight Effect
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
8: Appendix A – Common Acronyms in Betrayal Trauma Recovery
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For the Betrayed Spouse: Surviving Disclosure

Betrayal Trauma and Sex Addiction Recovery Basics 6: Relationship Recovery: The Usual Milestones that Lead to Repair and Growth Together For the Betrayed Spouse: Surviving Disclosure
Drs. Schneider and Corley’s groundbreaking 2002 workbook, Disclosing Secrets, addressed the impact of disclosure on both addicts and their partners.  Their subsequent research showed that the impact of disclosure is very different for partners than addicts.

Surviving Disclosure, helps partners better understand the trauma resulting from the addict’s behaviors and offers a step-by-step guide for how to begin the healing process, prepare for the impact of living with an addict (even an addict in recovery), and deal with shame, anger and fear.

The book describes what to tell the children and others, how to promote self-care and well-being no matter what the addict does, and how to set boundaries as part of rebuilding trust. Relationships can heal and partners can thrive after disclosure.

Surviving Disclosure:: A Partner’s Guide for Healing the Betrayal of Intimate Trust

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