GET A FULL MEDICAL WORKUP INCLUDING AN STD TEST – Because of the progressive nature of the disease of addiction and the secrecy and distortion used by the addict to protect their disease, and hide their behaviors, we do not know in the beginning of the full extent of our spouse's behavior. To be safe, ask your medical provider for a full workup for STD’s. If you trust your provider, it’s a good idea to be honest about why, so they can also become part of your support system.