Webinar: Boundaries: 5 Reasons They Fail, 3 Things You Must Do for Success
I’m passionate about the power of boundaries. Boundaries will give you data about the health and potential of a healed relationship after betrayal, and will give you opportunities to find safe spaces where you can become bigger than your relationship problems, and begin to heal the wounds of betrayal trauma. Boundaries extend out past your…
Read MoreWebinar: Betrayal Trauma in the Body with Bryn Merida
Bryn Merida, Licensed Massage Therapist, is passionate about helping women learn to reconnect with their inner wisdom through interoceptive awareness and trauma informed support groups. Listen as we talk about the importance of getting back into awareness of our body, and what it’s trying to tell us. If you find this information helpful, please consider…
Read MoreMy husband will not share what happens in therapy
A member writes: ๐ ๐ข๐ฎ ๐ด๐ต๐ณ๐ถ๐จ๐จ๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ข ๐ฃ๐ช๐ต ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฅ๐ท๐ช๐ด๐ฆ. ๐๐บ ๐ ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ธ๐ข๐ฏ๐ต ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ต๐ข๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ข๐ฑ๐บ ๐ด๐ฆ๐ด๐ด๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ข๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ด ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ค๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ค๐ฆ๐ด๐ด. ๐๐ฉ๐ช๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐จ๐ช๐ค๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ ๐ ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด๐ต๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ธ๐ข๐ฏ๐ต ๐ต๐ฐ ๐จ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ช๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ด๐ฑ๐ข๐ค๐ฆ. ๐๐ต ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ข๐ณ๐ฅ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ…
Read More16 of the best things I did for my early recovery – plus 5 missteps
When I started this journey, I never heard the words, “sex addiction”. I’d never heard of Patrick Carnesย until 2002, and it was even longer after that untilย I heard the words “betrayal trauma.” I tried to navigate the repeat betrayal/promises to stop cycle on my own, by my wits alone. I also received a…
Read MoreThe language and vocabulary of feeling
The Nonviolent Communication Feelings wheel is limited to feelings only. It encourages us to differentiate between a judgement and an emotion. Judgements are about the other person, for example, rejected, betrayed, unheard describes what we perceive the other person might be doing.ย We have no control over what another person does. Whereas feelings are about…
Read MoreLove yourself. No, really, I mean LOVE your, ‘SELF’.
You are so precious and beautiful, and worthy, standing in your own sacred space. Similar to, “If a tree falls in the woods and no one is there to hear it, does it make a sound?” Yes of course it does, and… If a woman like all of us, is deeply feeling, deeply caring, loving,…
Read MoreYour feelings have a PURPOSE. Don’t ignore them.
Your feelings areย VALID. Your feelings areย AUTHENTIC AND REAL. Your feelings areย IMPORTANTย and haveย VALUE. Your feelings haveย PURPOSE. Some of you are being told that your feelings aren’t correct. (Invalidation.) That you aren’t seeing things properly or your perceptions are wrong and so your feelings are invalid. (Gaslighting.) Or that your imagination is just creating this situation. (Also…
Read MoreCelebrating my betrayal trauma independence
Today I celebrate my own independence.ย I’m happily married to my husband who is (finally) in a real recovery of 37 months. But this isn’t about him, it’s about ME. ๐ ๐ I’m celebrating my independence from sex addiction in my life. ๐I’m celebrating my independence from fear and worry about his recovery or a…
Read MoreAvoiding Future Tripping: Stay out of worry in betrayal trauma relationship recovery
What is Future Tripping? One of the best tools in my betrayal trauma recovery toolkit was how to stay out of worrying about the future. To say I worried, would be an understatement. Rather, I obsessed. I panicked. I triggered over the future.ย “What if movies” that played in my head about “what might happen”.…
Read MoreEnabling active/unrecovered behavior with a sexually addicted person
“Providing relationship comforts to an active sexually addicted person, even sober, but not in recovery is protecting their addiction and standing in the way of their recovery.” Also known as enabling. Enabling the sexually addicted person to feel like everything is ok, and normal, when it’s not. Enabling the sexually addicted person to continue on…
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