Webinar: Boundaries: 5 Reasons They Fail, 3 Things You Must Do for Success

I’m passionate about the power of boundaries. Boundaries will give you data about the health and potential of a healed relationship after betrayal, and will give you opportunities to find safe spaces where you can become bigger than your relationship problems, and begin to heal the wounds of betrayal trauma. Boundaries extend out past your…

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Webinar: Betrayal Trauma in the Body with Bryn Merida

Betrayal trauma in the body with Bryn Merida

Bryn Merida, Licensed Massage Therapist, is passionate about helping women learn to reconnect with their inner wisdom through interoceptive awareness and trauma informed support groups. Listen as we talk about the importance of getting back into awareness of our body, and what it’s trying to tell us. If you find this information helpful, please consider…

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My husband will not share what happens in therapy

My husband won't share what happens in therapy

A member writes: ๐˜ ๐˜ข๐˜ฎ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜จ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฃ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฆ. ๐˜”๐˜บ ๐˜ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ฌ ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ฑ๐˜บ ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜บ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด. ๐˜ž๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜จ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜จ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฆ. ๐˜๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฉ…

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16 of the best things I did for my early recovery – plus 5 missteps

cross stitched heart torn in two stiched together with golden thread for betrayal trauma from sex addiction

When I started this journey, I never heard the words, “sex addiction”. I’d never heard of Patrick Carnesย  until 2002, and it was even longer after that untilย  I heard the words “betrayal trauma.” I tried to navigate the repeat betrayal/promises to stop cycle on my own, by my wits alone. I also received a…

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The language and vocabulary of feeling

The Nonviolent Communication Feelings wheel is limited to feelings only. It encourages us to differentiate between a judgement and an emotion. Judgements are about the other person, for example, rejected, betrayed, unheard describes what we perceive the other person might be doing.ย  We have no control over what another person does. Whereas feelings are about…

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Love yourself. No, really, I mean LOVE your, ‘SELF’.

Love love love yourself

You are so precious and beautiful, and worthy, standing in your own sacred space. Similar to, “If a tree falls in the woods and no one is there to hear it, does it make a sound?” Yes of course it does, and… If a woman like all of us, is deeply feeling, deeply caring, loving,…

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Your feelings have a PURPOSE. Don’t ignore them.

Your feelings areย VALID. Your feelings areย AUTHENTIC AND REAL. Your feelings areย IMPORTANTย and haveย VALUE. Your feelings haveย PURPOSE. Some of you are being told that your feelings aren’t correct. (Invalidation.) That you aren’t seeing things properly or your perceptions are wrong and so your feelings are invalid. (Gaslighting.) Or that your imagination is just creating this situation. (Also…

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Celebrating my betrayal trauma independence

Today I celebrate my own independence.ย  I’m happily married to my husband who is (finally) in a real recovery of 37 months. But this isn’t about him, it’s about ME. ๐Ÿ˜Ž ๐ŸŽ‡ I’m celebrating my independence from sex addiction in my life. ๐ŸŽ‡I’m celebrating my independence from fear and worry about his recovery or a…

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