Therapist - Counselors - Coaches - Therapeutic Intensives
Find a CSAT: Certified Sex Addiction Therapist
Finding a therapist who understands sexual addiction and it's impact on spouses is of the utmost importance for your emotional and physical safety, and your recovery from the effects of living with a sex addict. There are many therapists who still don't understand the disease, are unaware of the research and best practices in treatment. Many therapists may list sex addiction in their specialties, but they may not be the best choice. If you're a spouse of a sex addict, a good therapist will work with you on a safety plan, boundaries and consequences, and healing from your betrayal trauma and attachment injury, and work with you to identify if you have some codependent behaviors. Call therapists and ask them if they have read, "Your Sexually Addicted Spouse," by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means and ask if they support the trauma treatment model - NOT just the "codependency model".
The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists
If you're a betrayed spouse of a sex addict, then you likely have been traumatized by the discovery, disclosure or other abusive treatment by the active addict (gaslighting, minimizing your emotions, lying, justifying their behavior, manipulation, anger, etc.) These specialists understand the trauma and the best practices for treatment.
The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists - Coaching and Mentoring
I'm a Certified Life Coach, and will begin training in January of 2020 with Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) in the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. My goal is to become an APSATS Certified Partner Coach (CPC).
(Eye Movement Eye movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) EMDR Therapist Search is a treatment for trauma, that is usually done in a few sessions, and many betrayed partners report is extremely effective in calming triggers or PTSD symptoms from betrayal trauma.
Learn more at: https://www.emdria.org/page/what_is_emdr_therapy
Bethesda Workshops for Partners
The Healing for Partners workshop is a four-day, intensive setting that provides the equivalent of 8-12 months of weekly counseling. The group environment forges deep connections with other partners who have experienced betrayal, which is healing in and of itself.
Face to Face Group Support
** Despite misinformation on social media and some websites, S-Anon literature does NOT mention, suggest, or teach that we are all, "codependent" or "co-addicts" in any way, nor does it teach that we attract addicts into our lives. In fact, it teaches:
"In S-Anon we came to realize that just as we did not cause the sexaholic’s “acting out,” we could not cure it either."
The S-Anon Family Groups are a fellowship of the relatives and friends of sexually addicted people who share their experience, strength and hope in order to solve their common problems. Our program of recovery is adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous and is based on the Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions. www.sanon.org
COSA is a twelve-step recovery program for men and women whose lives have been affected by another person’s compulsive sexual behavior. Adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon, COSA is a program for our spiritual development, no matter what our religious beliefs. As we meet to share our experience, strength, and hope while working the twelve steps, we grow stronger in spirit and begin to lead our lives more serenely and in deeper fulfillment. www.cosa-recovery.org
Recovering Couples Anonymous (RCA) is a fellowship of recovering couples suffering from many addictions and dysfunctions. RCA is a 12-Step Fellowship founded in the Autumn of 1988 to help recovering couples restore their relationships. The primary purpose is to stay committed in loving and intimate relationships and to help other couples achieve freedom from dysfunctional relationships. www.recovering-couples.org
Online Recovery Support Resources
Online Resources for Group Recovery Support
Recovering Spouses of Sex Addicts - a free, safe, private Facebook Group moderated by Recovered Peace
Book study groups at Recovered Peace - safe and confidential peer recovery book groups, get you out of isolation with other people in the same situation as yourself, non-judgmental listening and sharing, exchange of ideas and resources for problem solving and coping strategies, insights into recovery from members at different stages, accountability and encouragement
Bloom for Women - digital community providing specialized, empathetic, compassionate, therapy and online courses for women healing from the trauma of infidelity.
Affair Recovery (includes information on affairs, betrayal, and sex addiction and recovery articles and online groups for both the betraying and betrayed partner, and couple recovery.)
Author Vicki Tidwell Palmer's Survive & Thrive Membership Community -
Specialized Guidance, Support & Connection for Betrayed Partners
Confidential Online Community + Access to Trauma & Addiction Specialist
S.A. Lifeline Foundation - organization dedicated to Recovering Individuals and Healing Families from the effects of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Face to face local meetings, as well as online groups.
PureDesire.org - faith based, Christian, safe place to find hope and healing, Develop Sexual Integrity | Restore Your Broken Marriage | Establish Healthy Relationships - for both the sexually addicted person and the betrayed spouse. Face to face local meetings, as well as online groups.
Comfort Christian Counseling - faith based, Christian, local meetings and sometimes online meetings for betrayed spouses. Check the website for more information on when groups start.
Avenue - Faith based, Christian, Heal your wounds and betrayal trauma. Discover hope for your future. Begin a new life of purpose filled destiny. Restore your relationship together. Programs for hte sexually addicted and the betrayed.
Spouse Recovery - Work Books
Spouse Recovery Educational Reading
A HOUSE INTERRUPTED A Wife’s Story of Recovering from Her Husband’s Sex Addiction, Maurita Corcoron
A messy, rambling, painful true life story of a wife dealing with her husband's sex addiction, and how two steps forward, one step back is a common experience.
About Sex Addiction and Recovery for the Addict
Letters from a Sex Addict, Barbara Steffens, Wendy Conquest, Dan Drake
In real letters from real sex addicted people, you can see the progression from denial, to acceptance, to true empathy and understanding how their behavior harmed themselves and others.