Helping Wives Heal from Betrayal trauma
Find hope and support as you reclaim your peace after discovering your husband's sex addiction, or pornography use. I'm here to offer guidance, tools, and a roadmap to recovery, so you can feel secure, valued, and whole again.
What Other Wives Say
"Your Kindness, support and education offered me not only a place to feel sane and safe when I felt so confused and alone— but also you gave me hope to improve. You did this by teaching me about boundaries, about what I deserved and reminded me I am my own person— and I get to do it in my own way and own time."
Joanne, Main, USA
"If you had told me 6 months ago, that my marriage could be better than ever, more close, more connected, more safe, I would have said it was impossible. Even setting and enforcing boundaries seemed like an impossible task. But Pam helped me to understand that I wasn't being mean, controlling or hard, but that my boundaries were an act of love. Now my children are learning to set boundaries and I couldn't be more proud.
Maria S, New Jersey, USA
"I now feel like a stronger individual because of her. I’ve learned stronger healthier boundaries, learned how to stay focused on my own personal growth, skills for helping my trauma states and just generally how to grow into a healthier person." - J.B., British Columbia
Jeneanne B. British Columbia, Canada
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The faith based and trauma informed podcast that dives into all things betrayal and comes up for air with hope for all wives struggling with their husband's hurtful behaviors due to their problematic sexual behaviors.
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“Limbo” — that place between knowing your sexually addicted spouse is not in recovery, and feeling like there’s nothing you can do about it, except divorce, or just “live with it.” I’m here to tell you, that you don’t have to stay there, and you have more than two options. There is a way out…
When I started this journey, I never heard the words, “sex addiction”. I’d never heard of Patrick Carnes until 2002, and it was even longer after that until I heard the words “betrayal trauma.” I tried to navigate the repeat betrayal/promises to stop cycle on my own, by my wits alone. I also received a…
A member writes: 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘨𝘨𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘣𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘥 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘢𝘥𝘷𝘪𝘴𝘦. 𝘔𝘺 𝘏 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘺 𝘴𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴. 𝘞𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘐 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘩𝘪𝘮 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘦. 𝘐𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘰𝘯 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩…