One person holding another person's hand in support and encouragement. Symbolic of betrayal trauma coaching.

Welcome to Recovered Peace
The smart person's resource for recovering from the effects of living with a sexually addicted person's behaviors.
Repeat deception, lies, cheating, promises to stop,
and infidelity causes partners to experience very real trauma. It does not matter if it's porn, or physical cheating, you deserve the best support you can find. I can help you.

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I offer a free confidential call so we can get to know each other and see if there's a fit for us to work together. 

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What Recovering Partners Say:

I have found this resource to be EXTREMELY healing and a healthy place to learn, grow, find support and most importantly validation.
I'm not crazy. I didn't cause this. I CAN HEAL independently of my husband's choices. I have choices!

Erika

Pennsylvania

I have been suffering for so long and when I found this group I finally found people who got it. I feel that now I am on the road to recovery. Hearing everyone’s story gives me strength , I am not alone. The resources, books and feedback are essential to my healing. So grateful

Kerry

Maine

This group has helped me a LOT! Book recommendations, the positivity, compassion for the addicted, and compassion for ourselves. It has enhanced my healing journey, Wysteria knows her stuff and is so caring and helpful!! Love you Wysteria! Blessings to you and your family. Keep preaching it!!!

Deb

Minnesota

Truly a blessing. I have learned so much. I'm truly grateful. My only negative is sometimes, even myself would like some validation instead of just advice. It wouldn't need to be always but maybe before the hard truth of what we may be doing wrong. Thank you for all of your help! 

Amber

Lexington, SC

Honestly, I was quite intimidated of you a year or so ago. I was new to the fb groups and I kept seeing all these posts and comments from this Wysteria lady. At times, your responses were in my opinion, harsh. Fourteen months later, I can honestly say it was my broken heart and bent frame of mind that made me intimidated.

There were times when I was pain seeking and looking for a pity party which you didn’t provide. I see now that often times you are trying to steer people out of unhealthy mindsets and sometimes, that takes some stern verbiage. I have learned more from you than anyone else in all the groups I have belonged to both online and in person. I have grown to admire your strength and courage and it has inspired me to dig deeper to find my strength. Thank you my lady! 

Brooke

New York

Such exciting news that you have created this space for us affected by sex addiction. I respect your sharing of your recovery so much. I learn so much from you. Yours is the reply I want to read when someone posts their need for help. Thank you so much for being so open with your recovery. I look forward to learning more from you thru all that is being offered on your website. 

Julaine

Canada

For me finding this group was a life changing / saving experience. Since the Dday I thank Higher Power of leading me to all beautiful, brave people I can learn, share, get help and wisdom from. It’s become my daily reading ’helper’. Safe reliable place to share darkest thoughts and happiest moments. Real blessing 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💛💛💛💛 

Sylwia

Poland

You have given me an outlook on this circumstance of hope and understanding. A different perspective of healing. For myself. For my relationship. For so many things. Often times when you are in the middle of chaos, it is hard to see things clearly. You have helped clear the mud and I am forever grateful for your wisdom that you share in the group. I wish I would have found this years ago

Tracy

Wisconsin

Resources:
Links to therapies, support groups, books to bring you up to speed on the recovery journey.

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Work a group recovery program with the support and encouragement of others on the same path, utilizing popular partner betrayal trauma recovery workbooks. The next group starts on January 8th, 2020 and is open for enrollment. More...

Get one on one coaching and mentoring for your recovery from intimate partner betrayal trauma. I can help you clear the smoke and see the path to safety and peace that best fits your situation and aligns with your personal values. Let me help you avoid mistakes and get to authenticity in your relationships.  More about my coaching....

Recovered Peace Blog

What does a Betrayed Spouse in recovery look like?

By Pam B. | November 22, 2019 |

I wrote about what a sex addict in real recovery from sexual addiction looks like. On the same note, what about us? This is what a woman in recovery looks like: Why do we ask this? Because recovery comes in waves for the spouse of addicts. ➡️ First Stage: It’s the, “if my husband stops…

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How Do I Know if My Sex Addict Spouse is Really in Recovery?

By Pam B. | November 15, 2019 |

“How do I know if my sex addict husband or wife is really in recovery?” Why do we ask this? Because we’ve been deceived so many times, we can’t be sure of what’s truth and what’s deception coming from a sex addict. Our husbands’ or wives’ word has lost its worth. A person’s actions, is…

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Movie: Don Jon

By Pam B. | October 18, 2017 |

A New Jersey guy dedicated to his family, friends, and church, develops unrealistic expectations from watching porn and works to find happiness and intimacy with his potential true love. Admin note: A little humor, a lot of truth, some mildly triggering scenes, but educational nonetheless. Shows the true power of porn to damage your ability…

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