My new weird friend, betrayal trauma pain, and it’s cousin compassion
I had to make to make friends with my pain, my beloved betrayal trauma therapist said, because it wasn’t going to go away until it had its say. And as a result, I’m so grateful I did. I changed. Instead of seeing my pain as the enemy, I changed how I looked at it. I…
Read MoreProtected: A sample losses or impact letter
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Read MoreWhen You Love a Sex Addict
The natural consequences of sex addiction reach far beyond the addict, and touches everyone that loves them. The deception and betrayal felt by spouses, family and friends reaches far, and are difficult to stomach. When you love someone with a sex addiction life can be chaotic and you experience betrayal trauma. The good news is,…
Read MoreRecovering Spouses of Sex Addicts is now Recovered Peace
When I first embarked on this journey of recovery from my husband’s sex addiction, I knew that I wanted to help other women and men who were suffering from the betrayal trauma of their spouse’s addiction. I had some ideas on how to do that on a local level, with my face to face meetings…
Read MoreWhat does a Betrayed Spouse in recovery look like?
On the same note, what about us? I posted about what a man in recovery looks like. This is what a woman in recovery looks like: What does a woman in true recovery look like? Why do we ask this? Because recovery comes in waves for the spouse of addicts. ➡️ First…
Read MoreHow Do I Know if My Sex Addict Spouse is Really in Recovery?
“How do I know if my sex addict husband or wife is really in recovery?” Why do we ask this? Because we’ve been deceived so many times, we can’t be sure of what’s truth and what’s deception coming from a sex addict. Our husbands’ or wives’ word has lost its worth. A person’s actions, is…
Read MoreDear Anyone Who Thinks Sex Addiction Doesn’t Exist…
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/dear-anyone-who-thinks-sex-addiction-doesnt-exist_us_59ff5720e4b0d467d4c2261c I think a helpful way of thinking about the issue of sex addiction is to compare it to the term “alcoholism.” ‘Alcoholic’ is a term used to describe someone who suffers from alcoholism – they often have a physical and/or psychological desire to consume alcohol beyond their capacity to control it, regardless of how…
Read MoreThe Heart of the Matter – Full Presentation on Recovery from Sexual Addiction
The Heart of the Matter takes an honest, gracious look into the lives of real people impacted by porn and sexual addiction. It is educational, at times heart-wrenching, but above all inspiring; the entire film draws you in to a redemptive message. There is hope for healing and a whole new life. We highly recommend…
Read MoreStates Declare Porn a Public Health Crisis
Utah: https://le.utah.gov/~2016/bills/static/SCR009.html Virginia: https://lis.virginia.gov/cgi-bin/legp604.exe?171+ful+HJ549 South Dakota https://legiscan.com/SD/text/SCR4/2017
Read MorePornography is more than just sexual fantasy. It’s cultural violence.
In March 2016, the U.K. government published its second National Strategy to End Volence Against Women and Girls. This is an extremely important lever for U.K. campaigners against pornography and its harms, as it recognizes that young people in particular have unprecedented access to online content and that some of that content may of course…
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