$59.00 / month


Boundaries are one of the core skills we need to employ in betrayal trauma recovery, or any recovery from infidelity, gaslighting, emotional neglect or toxic communication. As I worked with recovering spouses, I found that most of them weren’t employing boundaries. And in fact, most of us had a great deal of anxiety at the thought.

But here’s the truth: Boundaries give us power, and allow the “Safety and Stability” we need in in the beginning and throughout the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. We also need that sense of safety and autonomy in order to take advantage of our healing efforts. If we don’t feel safe, we tend not to retain, or see the fruits of our recovery efforts.

Boundaries aren’t an innate ability that you’re either born with or not. It’s not something only “courageous” people do. It’s a skill that can be learned, rehearsed and implemented with ease.

Boundaries can be implemented with compassion, empathy and love.

With that in mind, I’ve created a special sub-group, that focuses on learning boundaries, and how to enforce them, with specific focus on boundaries of partners of sex addicted personas/betrayal recovery and coupleship recovery.

Additionally, the key to enforcing and holding them in the face of pushback, is having a strong recovery community to support you, encourage you, and validate you. That’s what this group will also provide.

Strength in Unity. We can do this together.

The components of this group are:

* Twice Weekly 60-120 minute video chat with education on specific boundary and betrayal trauma recovery topics, question and answer, and troubleshooting individual boundary work or enforcement. Please note – these video sessions will be recorded and can be viewed later for those who can’t attend live. You are not required to be on camera to participate.

* Private FaceBook group focused on Boundaries only. I’ll drop in a minimum of once a day to provide education, tips, encourage discussion and answer questions.

* Components and structure subject to change, based on the needs of the community, and fluctuation in membership

You may sign up for a month, and cancel the membership at any time. All I ask is that you give 30 days notice, as refunds aren’t possible.


  1. Joanne, Wells, Maine

    Pam—Your Kindness, support and education offered me not only a place to feel sane and safe when I felt so confused and alone— but also you gave me hope to improve. You did this by teaching me about boundaries, about what I deserved and reminded me I am my own person— and I get to do it in my own way and own time.
    Big giant thank you for you and the groups you facilitate.❤

  2. Amber, Ontario, Canada

    Boundaries are so essential for us all, even in the best of times and Pam is an amazing coach. Setting and more importantly, holding our boundaries, can be overwhelming and confusing. Pam breaks it down to it’s simplest form, with easy and relatable examples that can be applied to our own unique circumstances. She truly gets it and you will too!

  3. Kelly, Ontario, Canada

    Pam’s groups and her chats on boundaries have helped me in more ways than words can describe. They have been my only source of validation and support since my betrayal. No one else seems to get it. Thank you Pam. I look forward to working further with your groups.
    – Kelly, Ontario, Canada

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Pam B.

Pam is a spouse recovering from betrayal trauma, with more experience dealing with betrayal trauma than any individual should ever have. Pam has completed a training in the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. She is an Achology certified Life Coach and NLP practitioner. Currently experiencing post-traumatic growth and trying to help others not make the same mistakes she has, and help others find recovery, restoration, redemption and peace. Turning tragedies into triumphs is her main goal in life. Faithful follower of Jesus, wife to a husband in good recovery, and mom to her favorite teenager.