Boundaries are one of the core skills we need to employ in betrayal trauma recovery, or any recovery from infidelity, gaslighting, emotional neglect or toxic communication. As I worked with recovering spouses, I found that most of them weren't employing boundaries. And in fact, most of us had a great deal of anxiety at the thought.

But here's the truth: Boundaries give us power, and allow the “Safety and Stability” we need in in the beginning and throughout the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. We also need that sense of safety and autonomy in order to take advantage of our healing efforts. If we don't feel safe, we tend not to retain, or see the fruits of our recovery efforts.

Boundaries aren't an innate ability that you're either born with or not. It's not something only “courageous” people do. It's a skill that can be learned, rehearsed and implemented with ease.

Boundaries can be implemented with compassion, empathy and love.

With that in mind, I've created a special sub-group, that focuses on learning boundaries, and how to enforce them, with specific focus on boundaries of partners of sex addicted personas/betrayal recovery and coupleship recovery.

Additionally, the key to enforcing and holding them in the face of pushback, is having a strong recovery community to support you, encourage you, and validate you. That's what this group will also provide.

Strength in Unity. We can do this together.