Boundaries are one of the core skills we need to employ in betrayal trauma recovery, or any recovery from infidelity, gaslighting, emotional neglect or toxic communication. As I worked with recovering spouses, I found that most of them weren't employing boundaries. And in fact, most of us had a great deal of anxiety at the thought.
But here's the truth: Boundaries give us power, and allow the “Safety and Stability” we need in in the beginning and throughout the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. We also need that sense of safety and autonomy in order to take advantage of our healing efforts. If we don't feel safe, we tend not to retain, or see the fruits of our recovery efforts.
Boundaries aren't an innate ability that you're either born with or not. It's not something only “courageous” people do. It's a skill that can be learned, rehearsed and implemented with ease.
Boundaries can be implemented with compassion, empathy and love.
With that in mind, I've created a special sub-group, that focuses on learning boundaries, and how to enforce them, with specific focus on boundaries of partners of sex addicted personas/betrayal recovery and coupleship recovery.
Additionally, the key to enforcing and holding them in the face of pushback, is having a strong recovery community to support you, encourage you, and validate you. That's what this group will also provide.
The components of this group are:
* Weekly 30-90 minute video chat (longer if we have large groups of attendees) with education on specific boundary topics, question and answer, and troubleshooting individual boundary work or enforcement. Please note – these video sessions will be recorded and can be viewed later for those who can't attend live. You are not required to be on camera to participate.
* Private FaceBook group focused on Boundaries only. I'll drop in a minimum of once a day to provide education, tips, encourage discussion and answer questions.
* Components and structure subject to change, based on the needs of the community, and fluctuation in membership
You may sign up for a month, and cancel the membership at any time. All I ask is that you give 30 days notice, as refunds aren't possible.