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Webinar: Betrayal Trauma in the Body with Bryn Merida
Bryn Merida, Licensed Massage Therapist, is passionate about helping women learn to reconnect with their inner wisdom through interoceptive awareness and trauma informed support groups. Listen as we talk about the importance of getting back into awareness of our body, and what it’s trying to tell us. If you find this information helpful, please consider…
Read More16 of the best things I did for my early recovery – plus 5 missteps
When I started this journey, I never heard the words, “sex addiction”. I’d never heard of Patrick Carnes until 2002, and it was even longer after that until I heard the words “betrayal trauma.” I tried to navigate the repeat betrayal/promises to stop cycle on my own, by my wits alone. I also received a…
Read MoreLove yourself. No, really, I mean LOVE your, ‘SELF’.
You are so precious and beautiful, and worthy, standing in your own sacred space. Similar to, “If a tree falls in the woods and no one is there to hear it, does it make a sound?” Yes of course it does, and… If a woman like all of us, is deeply feeling, deeply caring, loving,…
Read MoreYour feelings have a PURPOSE. Don’t ignore them.
Your feelings are VALID. Your feelings are AUTHENTIC AND REAL. Your feelings are IMPORTANT and have VALUE. Your feelings have PURPOSE. Some of you are being told that your feelings aren’t correct. (Invalidation.) That you aren’t seeing things properly or your perceptions are wrong and so your feelings are invalid. (Gaslighting.) Or that your imagination is just creating this situation. (Also…
Read MoreCelebrating my betrayal trauma independence
Today I celebrate my own independence. I’m happily married to my husband who is (finally) in a real recovery of 37 months. But this isn’t about him, it’s about ME. 😎 🎇 I’m celebrating my independence from sex addiction in my life. 🎇I’m celebrating my independence from fear and worry about his recovery or a…
Read MoreAvoiding Future Tripping: Stay out of worry in betrayal trauma relationship recovery
What is Future Tripping? One of the best tools in my betrayal trauma recovery toolkit was how to stay out of worrying about the future. To say I worried, would be an understatement. Rather, I obsessed. I panicked. I triggered over the future. “What if movies” that played in my head about “what might happen”.…
Read MoreMy new weird friend, betrayal trauma pain, and it’s cousin compassion
I had to make to make friends with my pain, my beloved betrayal trauma therapist said, because it wasn’t going to go away until it had its say. And as a result, I’m so grateful I did. I changed. Instead of seeing my pain as the enemy, I changed how I looked at it. I…
Read MoreA sample losses or impact letter
Dearest ____, I am writing this impact letter in hopes that you will gain a better understanding of how your addiction and acting out behavior has wounded me. Your sex addiction and deceptive choices and behaviors have impacted me in the following ways: Physically I have felt violated and sickened that you risked my health…
Read MoreWhen You Love a Sex Addict
The natural consequences of sex addiction reach far beyond the addict, and touches everyone that loves them. The deception and betrayal felt by spouses, family and friends reaches far, and are difficult to stomach. When you love someone with a sex addiction life can be chaotic and you experience betrayal trauma. The good news is,…
Read MoreRecovering Spouses of Sex Addicts is now Recovered Peace
When I first embarked on this journey of recovery from my husband’s sex addiction, I knew that I wanted to help other women and men who were suffering from the betrayal trauma of their spouse’s addiction. I had some ideas on how to do that on a local level, with my face to face meetings…
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