Common Acronyms We Use in Betrayal Trauma Recovery

📖 ACA - Adult Children of Alcoholics/ Dysfunctional Families. Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition program of men and women who grew up in dysfunctional homes. Website:
📖  AOP - Acting out partner
📖  AP - Affair partner
📖  BS - Betrayed spouse
📖  BT - Betrayal Trauma, also, Relational Trauma Response
📖  CODA - Co-dependants Anonymous.. a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships.
📖  COSA - Recovery for family and friends of a sex addict.
📖  DARVO - Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender. Manipulation and evasive tactic used by addicts and abusers to deny the behavior, attack you, make themselves the victim, and you the offender. Victim blaming.
📖  Dday also D-Day- The day you discovered your betrayal
📖  EMDR - Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, a very effective treatment for trauma
📖  FANOS - Feelings, Affirmations, Needs, Ownership, Sobriety or Struggles. A way to "check in" with your partner in recovery.
📖  FOO - Family of origin
📖  FTD - Also FD Full Therapeutic Disclosure or Full Disclosure
📖  GIFT: an acronym to help identify the emotion that anger was protecting me from: Guilt, Inadequacy or Inferiority, Fear, Trauma (current or past)
📖  HALT - Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired - you may be more easily emotionally upset or triggered if any of these are present.
📖  HIR - Husband in Recovery
📖  HP - Higher Power, or God, as you understand God to be
📖  IA - Intimacy Anorexia - A theory that states a condition of , "active withholding of emotional, spiritual and sexual intimacy from the spouse or partner." which often occurs in sex addicts. This condition may dissipate or disappear in sexual addiction recovery.
📖  JADE Justify, argue, defend, explain - don't JADE in response to DARVO or relational abuse
📖  MB- Masturbation
📖  OW - the Other Woman
📖  NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder
📖  NVC - Nonviolent communication -a way to express your pain, hold someone accountable, and communicate a boundary
📖  PIED - Pornography Induced Erectile Dysfunction
📖  PTSD - Post traumatic stress disorder
📖  RCA - Recovering Couples Anonymous. A fellowship of recovering couples. We suffer from many addictions and dysfunctions, and we share our experience, strength, and hope with each other that we may solve our common problems and help other recovering couples restore their relationships. The only requirement for membership is the desire to remain committed to each other and to develop new intimacy.
📖  RTR - Relational Trauma Response, also: Betrayal trauma
📖  S-Anon - The S-Anon International Family Groups are a worldwide fellowship of the relatives and friends of sexually addicted people. S-Anon is a Twelve-Step program based on the Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous. Does not use codependent or coaddict terminology in any literature.
📖  SA - Sex addict, or Sexaholics anonymous at SA dot org
📖  SAA - Sex Addicts Anonymous at saa-recovery dot org Allows the addict to define sobriety.
📖  SAH - Sex addict husband
📖  STBX- soon to be X(husband/wife)


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