Boundaries are one of the core skills we need to employ in betrayal trauma recovery, or any recovery from infidelity, gaslighting, emotional neglect or toxic communication. As I worked with recovering spouses, I found that most of them weren't employing boundaries. And in fact, most of us had a great deal of anxiety at the thought.
But here's the truth: Boundaries give us power, and allow the “Safety and stability” we need in the beginning and throughout the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. We also need that sense of safety and autonomy in order to take advantage of our healing efforts. If we don't feel safe, we tend not to retain, or see the fruits of our recovery efforts.
Boundaries aren't an innate ability that you're either born with or not. It's not something only “courageous” people do. It's a skill that you can learn, rehearse and implement with ease.
You can implement boundaries with compassion, empathy, and love.
With that in mind, I've created a special sub-group, that focuses on learning boundaries, and how to enforce them, focusing specifically on boundaries of partners of sex addicted personas/betrayal recovery and coupleship recovery.
The key to enforcing and holding them in the face of pushback is having a strong recovery community to support you, encourage you, and validate you. That's what this group will also provide.
The components of this group are:
* Twice Weekly 60-90 minute video chat with education on specific boundary and betrayal trauma recovery topics, question and answer, and troubleshooting individual boundary work or enforcement. Please note – these video sessions are recorded and can be viewed later for those who can't attend live. I do not require you to be on camera to take part but it's recommended for the full benefit of group.
Meetings are currently Tuesdays at 2pm ET and Thursdays at 7pm ET.
* Private FaceBook group focused on Boundaries only. I'll drop in a minimum of once a day to provide education, tips, encourage discussion and answer questions.
* Components and structure subject to change, based on the needs of the community, and fluctuation in membership
You may sign up for a month, and cancel the membership at any time. All I ask is that you give 30 days notice, as refunds aren't possible.